Before befriending others, you have to be your own best friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It is not termed as selfish but personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then you can balance the world.
Nothing makes me feel better — calmer, clearer and happier — than being in one place, absorbed in a book, a conversation, a piece of music. It’s actually something deeper than mere happiness: it’s joy, which the monk David Steindl-Rast describes as “that kind of happiness that doesn’t depend on what happens.
What matters is the value we’ve created in our lives, the people we’ve made happy and how much we’ve grown as people.